A woman is often treated as a commodity after the marriage. A well-qualified, educated domestic help who has to struggle hard often to earn a recognition. This is the plight of so many of us because we have agreed to give up our freedom. A pinch of sindoor and mangalsuthra have a great role to play in bringing about a sea change in our lives. It’s considered the auspicious way to solemnize a relationship but is the integrity of the two maintained forever by the men apart from the women who value it more than their lives. Women often become a scape–goat and victim of so many untoward incidents.
We as educated individuals must value the purity of both. At the same time must not succumb to the emotional aspect of it forgoing our real identity. Marriage gives us an extended family with additional responsibilities. In the pursuit of living a married life our personal interests and passion must not get subdued. Our special traits have to be etched out artistically. Jhansi Rani, Raziya Sultana, Indira Gandhi, Kiran Bedi, Asha Bhonsle, Rukmini Devi Arundel, M.S. Subbulakshmi, Indra Nooyi-the list is endless. These women successfully balanced their personal life as well as professional career. They became world famous and paved way for many other women as role models. They owe their success to their family and the value system put into them in their upbringing.
We too can be one among them with our names in the annals of history. We need to assert to ourselves and think what makes us come alive. “Nothing great in the world has been accomplished without passion.” It may be gardening, music, handcrafted things or anything in which our interest is vested which gives us real pleasure. We must also remember that finding passion is just not about career and money, it’s all about finding our authentic life. We women take a pleasure in admiring another woman driving a bike or scaling heights of the Everest. We fall flat for Shehnaz Husssain’s herbal cosmetics and spend ransom on Neeta Lulla’s trendy wear. We shrug our shoulders and speak about other women. We tend to forget that we can also be one among them. We must make others too shrug their shoulders seeing us. Working meticulously and passionately on our desired work front will add a plume to the bonnet of womanhood. Let’s celebrate our existence and shine brightly like the pole star.
by Sujatha Sairam, Chennai