“Separation is the most painful chapter in a relationship. Often letting go off the old form of the relationship becomes a lesson in pure love much deeper than any other thing.”
Does separation mean a legal break-up? Nay, it can also refer to a state of mind where two individuals no longer have warm feelings for each other. It’s like you share the same roof because of societal compulsions after a major difference of opinion. There may be other reasons as well, like bringing up the children, safeguarding the family name etc. This state is far more painful than the legal separation. When we go for a legal separation, we have freedom to take our own decisions thereafter. But when it’s the other way round, life becomes hell. There seems to be a clash for every simple thing. Years of understanding all of a sudden goes down the drain. I just wonder where the wedding vows and promises disappear all of a sudden. Was that also to show off to the world?
I’m sure many women have faced such a trauma. Some of them live with it and some of them have overcome such a situation by fighting it out. We don’t have to prove ourselves to the world; it’s enough if we don’t fall down in our self-esteem. If there’s a situation where life gets difficult, face it with confidence and prove yourself. It would be the best revenge against the people who have failed to understand your worth. You put down your papers in the form of your success stories. Remember there are many to listen to your issues but only you can resolve it. Think of a separation from everything that breaks you. Move towards constructing yourself.
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Sujatha Sairam, Chennai