“Believe in yourself for you are the best.” Make this your manthra as you take up any job. It’s true we cannot live in isolation but don’t allow people to impose things over you under the cover of an emotional bonding. Many a times we come across people by chance and get close to them to such an extent that our life takes a complete turn. If it’s for good, fine there’s no harm but sometimes it’s the other way around. In today’s fast moving world people value relationships in terms of profit and loss like a business. Till things are in their favour you are the apple pie for them but once its adverse you are nothing less than a trash.
In this line of thought we are reminded of one of our clients Sushma who had come to us in a complete state of mental and emotional instability. She had a lovely family with a loving husband and two boys. Then what was her problem? All the twists and turns started when she happened to meet her childhood friend Nithish in one of the school alumni meet. Nithish was running a tuition centre for children appearing for board exams and various other competitive exams. He needed an extra hand for training children in English language. He requested Sushma to spare few hours in the evening for him. Sushma asked Nithish to give her sometime as she had to consult Sudhir, her hubby. Nithish agreed and it was his luck that Sudhir had given his consent. Sudhir felt that Sushma must get a break from her monotonous household work. She started helping Nithish in his centre. Within no time the centre had many new admissions especially for spoken English classes. In fact there was a separate batch formed for housewives who wanted to learn spoken English in the morning time. This kept Sushma busy but slowly she realised that pressure was mounting up on her. Nithish was becoming bossy and demanding. On some occasions he entrusted the entire responsibility of the centre in Sushma’s hands and would be away on his personal work. He would return late and because of this Sushma’s sons Amit and Mohit started missing her. They had to help themselves and at times slept off before she returned. Sudhir was upset with such things and asked her to speak to Nithish. Sushma told about her inconveniences to Nithish. To her surprise he reverted rudely saying that she should have thought of all this before she joined the centre. He said he couldn’t relieve her until she replaced someone. Each day was becoming torturous.
Finally Sushma decided to put her foot down. She worked only for limited hours in the centre. Nithish tried to persuade her but Sushma was no longer that old submissive person. She realised that she had her own identity which in no case she could allow others to treat with indifference. As Sushma took a step backwards Nithish realised he had made a mistake in trying to impose extra responsibilities at the cost of her personal priorities. But he showed his chauvinistic attitude and forgot about their friendship. His centre started losing its strength. People were no longer interested in sending their children to his centre. Nithish held Sushma responsible for it and demanded her to pay for his losses. He sort of behaved in a hysterical manner, tried to demean Sushma in her friends’ circle and amidst relatives. Sudhir trusted her but she was in an emotional stress and her health started deteriorating as a result. She couldn’t understand that how could one person be so selfish. When things were in his favour Nithish hardly acknowledged her but when things went out of hand there was a blame game. She started hating herself for having been so weak emotionally. That’s the reason people took her for granted. She also understood that her family especially her hubby alone would stand by her side always. In such a mental state she approached us and opened up to us about how miserable she was feeling. Her tears seemed to be never ending. She had endured so much pain in a short span and had lost trust in people. She was trying to be aloof from herself. At this juncture our team of experts counselled her to get back to her teaching job at school. Being with children would help her overcome her trauma. It really worked. Within few months she wrote back to us thanking us for helping her to revive her lost confidence. She also took a pride in telling us that she was also given an extra responsibility of delivering motivational speeches to children in the prayer every week apart from her regular teaching. Sudhir too was very happy to see his wife getting back to normal. For him Sushma’s smile was more precious than a million rupees. He too sent us a thank you mail to us for our services.
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by Sujatha Sairam, Chennai