Everything seems to be pleasant and fine from one angle of perception. Only when you put your thinking cap and start analysing it from the other end would you be able to feel for the other person. It’s exam time and you are busy with your children supporting them by all possible means. You have fixed a target in your mind that your son or daughter must do extremely well to keep up your name amidst family and society. Expectations are not wrong but you have got no rights to impose it on them. You have brought them to this world and with that your job is done. God has created each person with uniqueness so don’t meddle with it. Give them their space.
Recently I had been to a gathering at my son’s school. Being exam time the topic of course was exam oriented. It was TIPS TO PERFORM WELL DURING EXAMS. I felt elated as I thought I could carry forward these tips to my son. What surprised me was that the speaker had divided his talk into two- tips for students and parents. Many parents like me gave a puzzled look when they heard the topic. I’m sure few rhetorical questions would have cropped up in their minds too as was the case with me. “Why do we need tips, haven’t we already completed all our exams and placed ourselves in life?” The speaker reacted spontaneously as if though he could read our minds. He said, “Yes, you need more than your children. Your children are all set academically to face the exams with periodic tests and coaching. What really matters now is your moral support so that they can put down in paper what they have studied so far.”
Here are a few revelations I could gather from his talk. I’m sure it’s going to be beneficial to all of us.
*Give enough space for children in terms of time, their method of preparation and sleep pattern.
*Don’t keep nagging by saying that they are not spending quality time.
*Allow them to relax by taking short intervening breaks, it’s going to cost nothing, it will break the monotony.
* Restrict yourself from the use of TV and other gadgets if you don’t want your child to get diverted.
* Don’t talk of the habits of yours as a child for everything around us has undergone a change.
*Don’t carry out a post-mortem of the question paper after the exam is over. It’s not going to help anyway.
*Most important of all don’t compare your child with another child on the basis of their performance.
*Respect their feelings and give them a dignified feel.
So are you ready to take up the exams with full vigour and confidence? Respond to us at STHREEJEEVAN to let us know how you fared.
WISH YOU ALL THE VERY BEST.
by Sujatha Sairam, Chennai