When women cry people often make fun saying it’s very expensive because quite a lot is spent on their cosmetics. In reality tears are indeed expensive for it’s an emotional expression of innate feelings. The birth of a baby, the achievements of friends, siblings and off springs, a sense of accomplishment at some age bring in tears of joy. The eyes seem to speak volumes to express this joy where words fail to do the job.
The same tears can be of pain which at times remain within the individual. This is the time when even if they are slightly provoked they land up crying bitterly. Sometimes they are not able to contain themselves for hours at a stretch. People on the other side rebuke and fail to understand their emotional turmoil. This is very common with women because of various reasons. They might be overworked, lack of sleep, physical ailments. They immediately seek refuge in their better halves. Some men are patient listeners. Patient listening soothes the aching heart. But some men shout back at them calling their behaviour to be childish. They fail to identify the pain behind the tears or the emotional outburst.
Women who are very loving and caring towards family especially the husband and kids expect the same love to be reciprocated. But it’s not always like that for all. There’s negligence or ignorance which makes them break down totally. They become victims of depression and health disorders. Surely among the readers of STHREEJEEVAN there are many who feel the same or would have felt at some juncture. The question is “Are you still crying and lamenting about it?” Then it’s time to wipe your tears and get going to accomplish what all you have left behind undone. Pick up the loose ends and start afresh. Don’t over react to situations and people which are not in your favour. Stay calm and move forward.
Let’s not quote examples from history to elucidate this. Our own grand moms, aunts and our moms who belong to the yesteryears are perfect role models. Can you remember any instance when you found them crying or exhibiting their anger unnecessarily. In fact they were part of joint families with more responsibilities to shoulder. But still they were always with a smile. Does it mean they never had problems? They too would have had problems but nothing could stop them. This was so because they looked at things with the right perspective. They had a positive approach towards life. Then shouldn’t the 21st century women-the trendsetters possess herculean strength to tear the tears apart. Let it flow only when you create something and as a mark of sheer joy. Let it not be wasted for people who don’t value it. Surely this writing would have moved you to write to us. We are waiting to hear from you to help you live a life with zest today, tomorrow and forever.
by Sujatha Sairam, Chennai