“Surekha, I’m getting late for the board meeting because of you. It’s going to last the whole day and you haven’t even made the breakfast. You expect me to go on an empty stomach. You need to change your lazy attitude.”
“Sorryji,” replied Surekha in a submissive tone with her head bent down. She had hit the bed late last night after winding up with the household chores so couldn’t wake up on her regular time. Was it such a hideous crime on her part? Moreover she had missed the alarm too. Such a thing had rarely happened in her carefully planned schedule. Her eyes glistened with tears and even before she could come to her senses she heard two more voices.
“Mummy our uniform is not ironed and shoes not polished,” shouted Sujay.
“I’m sure we are going to be late and miss the school bus today. We somehow have to reach school on time. Our teacher said that some people are going to come for inspection,” yelled out Sujitha.
Surekha helplessly looked at her fifteen year old son Sujay and eleven year old Sujitha. She couldn’t reply to their queries. Her throat choked and and she was struggling for words. She couldn’t afford to answer them as it would cause further delay.
“Both of you have your shower and by then everything will be ready,” responded Surekha in a hasty manner. She served a hot cup of coffee to her husband Sumit as he sat munching away few biscuits . He grabbed the coffee and drank it in one gulp as he was in a hurry. He left home banging the main door. Surekha experienced a chill run behind her spine as he left. She got into the kitchen to make a quick lunch of chapathi roll with cheese and chappathis of the previous night. Then she paced quickly to the bedroom to iron the clothes for the children. In another fifteen minutes everything was done and she could successfully board the children into the school bus.
After the kids left, Surekha entered her bedroom, heaved a sigh, stretched her legs and rested her head on her pillow. As she closed her eyes, she couldn’t control the gush of tears. She asked herself, “Where am I going wrong? Why my people are unhappy with me?”
I’m sure many of homemakers have faced what Surekha underwent. Who do you think in reality is to be blamed? Surekha, of course and in your case undoubtedly YOU. This might sound harsh but that’s the truth. Many homemakers as wife, mother overdo the work than its required. As a result they are taken for granted and blamed as well when things go wrong. Learn to allocate work to everyone in the family which is feasible for them. This way you can not only make them independent but also make them strong enough to shoulder responsibilities. The change has to come within YOU first to bring about a change in others.
by Sujatha Sairam, Chennai