These words really unnerved me and thought must share with all my women friends out there.
“Don’t worry about losing people around you but worry about losing yourself in pleasing everyone around you.” Isn’t this true with all of us who have buried our own desires either for our loved ones to fulfill their whims and fancies. That’s what we ought to do is the thought put into us as we are brought up. You must please everyone around you and create a name for yourself. Is it a wrong value instilled is the confusion at times. Not at all as a family we must move together but not at the cost of your own dignity and self-esteem. We women tend to give up our goals and aspirations to guide our loved ones towards their goal. Once they have reached their goal what do you think is your role anymore. We are left behind with a void of self- dissatisfaction, loneliness and a vacuum. This can surely be avoided if we tend to live for ourselves few minutes everyday that gives us happiness. Not only that cultivate a habit to say NO to them . Appreciate them for their support and at the same time tell them you are hurt when they don’t value your sentiments and feelings. You might have a lurking fear as you say but come-on take it in your stride….. Overcome such a feel that lets you down. It’s they who need you and have a made a choice to be with you. So be bold and move ahead. In this journey of life we come across end number of people like the shells brought along with the wave. You can’t burden yourself by carrying each one of them with you. Get going with your head held up high with a sense of achievement. People would follow you seeing your accomplishments and magnanimous personality that’s inspiring and motivating which is reflected in your confident smile.
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by Sujatha Sairam, Chennai